Create the Life You Love as an ADHD Perimenopausal Woman
You are feeling anxious. You forget words or names in the middle of sentences. You can’t even get it together enough to answer an email. You can’t sleep. You wake up in the middle of the night soaking wet. You’re hot one minute and cold the next. You don’t know what is happening. You know something needs to change and you can’t do it on your own.
Does any of this sound familiar?
This isn’t just stress. You are not going crazy. It’s a biological process. The drop in estrogen during perimenopause has a direct impact on how dopamine works in your ADHD brain.
Here’s the good news! When you learn how to harness the hormonal shifts and work with your unique ADHD wiring, you can create the life you love.
Hi, I’m Cyndi, an ADHD menopause coach
Menopause can be hard. ADHD makes it harder.
Here’s the truth no one tells you about: Estrogen is a natural dopamine regulator. When your estrogen levels drop, your ADHD symptoms will spike.
What you are experiencing is real. It is common in this specific intersection between perimenopause and ADHD. It is not a personal failing. You aren’t losing it. You are just entering a new phase that requires a new toolkit.
For decades, I white knuckled my way through ADHD and menopause. I made all the mistakes, cried through the night, questioned whether I was developing dementia, and experienced all of the stress and unknown to develop this space for you.
Here’s what working with me will actually change for you.
You can stop referring to yourself as crazy or losing it and start operating from a place that is built for the brain and body you have right now. Not the one you had at thirty while estrogen was holding you up.
You will understand why your focus evaporates every afternoon, and your ADHD meds seem to have stopped working. Your estrogen is dropping, and it was quietly propping up your dopamine regulation. Once you can name the mechanism, you can stop panicking about it.
You will be able to walk into your doctor’s appointments with the vocabulary and the data to be taken seriously, instead of leaving with another “it’s just part of getting older” or “let’s just watch and see”.
You will have a room full of women who get both halves of this. Not just a menopausal group that have never heard of executive dysfunction. Or an ADHD group that thinks hot flashes and memory fog are someone else’s problem.
Underneath it all: You will be able to trust your own mind again. Not because the symptoms disappeared, but because you finally know what is causing them, and you’re no longer fighting your own brain in the dark.
If you are ready to move from barely surviving to designing a life that actually supports your brain, then you are in the right place.
Ways to work with me
10 day Nervous System Reset
What you’ll get, one email a day for 10 days
A quick, plain English explanation of what’s happening in your body that day.
One simple somatic exercise (think - breathwork, humming, cold water, gentle movement. Not woo, not hours of stillness.
A short optional journal prompt to build self-awareness without adding to your to-do list.
On Day 10, your own personalized “calm-down toolkit” built from your favorite tools.
Who is this for:
You’re in perimenopause and living with (or suspecting) ADHD.
You feel wired-but-tires, foggy, reactive, or like your “off switch” has disappeared.
You want tools that take minutes, not hours and that actually work with your ADHD brain, not against it.
Steady State - Group Couching
What you will get:
Module 1: Regulate - A nervous system reset that you can use on command. You will understand why your old coping strategies stopped working.
Walk away: “I can calm my body down.”
Module 2: Rebuild - You will build a working set of strategies that work for your current ADHD brain in perimenopause, plus gain foundational habits that support both regulation and cognition.
Walk away: “I have tools that actually work for my brain now.”
Module 3: Expand - If you downloaded the free Walk In Ready ADHD perimenopause appointment prep kit, you have the data to show your medical provider instead of saying “Something just feels off.” In Module 3 you will have a clearer sense of your post-program identity and new friends to support you and stay connected with.
Walk away: “I know how to advocate3 for myself, and I’m not doing this alone.”
Who is this for:
First off: You are not falling apart! Your operating system changed and nobody gave you the new manual.
You are between the ages of 35-55 and suspect you are in perimenopause.
You are either late diagnosed ADHD (often after you have started perimenopause) or self-suspecting/undiagnosed ADHD.
You are the person that everyone calls “smart, the reliable one, the one who never drops the ball." Now, you can’t even rely on yourself.
You don’t have time to fall apart. You have people depending on you.
You suddenly don’t recognize yourself anymore. You are scared of your own brain.
You have tried the gratitude journals, meditation (but your brain won’t be quiet), essential oils, gentle affirmations, more sleep, more exercise, more discipline, organizational apps and productivity systems and nothing worked. Because it’s not a discipline problem it’s a nervous system and hormone problem.
Have Questions?
Tell us what’s on your mind and we’ll reply with friendly, no-pressure guidance.